Yes - the "I know what's best for you... and will help you" while constantly moving the goal posts and refusing to engage in a meaningful, intimate way - the power dynamic, quest for control ... so… - Andy Spears

…buser, highly adept at virtue signaling and grandstanding, presents as exceptional and magnanimous. By fostering a dependency in which it is implied that they possess great insight which will assist the targeted victim in their growth and well-being, a power differential is ensured. Through wielding altruism and morality, the insidious yet subtle ploy of conspicuous 'goodness' and…

The Subtle Abuser

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Rev. Sheri Heller, LCSW, RSW

Andy Spears

Jun 20, 2022

Yes - the "I know what's best for you... and will help you" while constantly moving the goal posts and refusing to engage in a meaningful, intimate way - the power dynamic, quest for control ... so frustrating.