YES! It took me getting into a recovery program (for alcohol abuse) to discover that I CAN be curious and then find common ground. At first, I just wanted to know about others who were in recovery - how did they do it? But then, I got to learn some neat things about some neat people - and it led me to asking questions of people I meet - of listening, being present - and learning. I'm curious about what makes people smile, why - how did they get into their work, their hobbies - what's exciting to them. This asking of questions is still not easy - but it can be fun and does help build connection.