This type of abuse is so, so confusing. The being told you're not wanted, you're inconvenient, you're ugly today or who would wear that - Then being asked why you are upset - then, almost on a dime, a hug, a gesture, some service - it taught me to almost WANT to be abused emotionally - because after I was abused, I would get all these things, these acts of service. So, I expected that - didn't speak up as an adult when situations were way out of bounds. And then - got depressed when I took the abuse but it wasn't followed with acts of service or gifts. All so strange - learning to expect more, to expect better for myself. Thank you for sharing your story.