This is dead-on. That essential survival skill developed as a child makes some "hypervigilant" such that they pick up on the slightest emotional change - they "feel" it in their inner being - and respond. And it pisses them off (eventually) when a partner doesn't "just know" what they want/need. Being clear and direct and asking for what you need goes a long way - and if, after you do that, they still aren't being responsive, you may have a different problem entirely.