This is dead-on. That essential survival skill developed as a child makes some "hypervigilant" such that they pick up on the slightest emotional change - they "feel" it in their inner being - and respond. And it pisses them off (eventually) when a partner doesn't "just know" what they want/need. Being clear and direct and asking for what you need goes a long way - and if, after you do that, they still aren't being responsive, you may have a different problem entirely.

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Andy Spears

Andy Spears

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Writer and policy advocate living in Nashville, TN —Public Policy Ph.D. — writes on education policy, consumer affairs, and more . . .