That doesn't work- Sure, we can all improve on who we are - we can all learn more, become more fit, etc - but, true growth starts with accepting who we are - some aren't built to be super fit - some aren't the smartest, etc - acceptance begins growth - then, we can be honest with ourselves about who and what we are - and where there are areas that need improvement, we can ask for help. A person who is continuously evolving and growing - that person is attractive.