So true. So painful. It’s easier, I suspect, for the married person to play at emotional work or find a comforting distraction. That real work? That’s tough. Many aren’t up for it. - Andy Spears - Medium

But now I see it’s a paradigm, and it’s one that’s impossible to fulfill. We can’t save other people, because we cannot do their emotional work for them.

A Little-Known Reason the Other Woman Homed in on Your Marriage

P. D. Reader

Jul 10, 2022

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So true. So painful. It’s easier, I suspect, for the married person to play at emotional work or find a comforting distraction. That real work? That’s tough. Many aren’t up for it.

Andy Spears

Written by Andy Spears

Writer and policy advocate living in Nashville, TN —Public Policy Ph.D. — writes on education policy, consumer affairs, and more . . .

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